The site currently lists 11 cities, though one imagines the intention is to eventually branch out. This is a good example of the kind of coordinated effort that can occur when funds are brought to bear and help support the work that is happening on the front lines. Also, the web site design is A+.

I think RWJF and Family Violence Prevention Fund have framed the discussion perfectly, not just for that age group, but for the nation at large: ending violence in a culture steeped in violent behavior which masquerades as “normal” and “acceptable” ultimately means defining (and teaching) what constitutes healthy relationships.

I look forward to viewing more of the site when I find the time, and to watching the program grow.

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Your help is needed! Join the U.S. national call to action to support
sexual assault survivors and sexual assault programs impacted by the
recent tsunami in the Pacific Territories. President Obama has declared
the U.S. territory of American Samoa a major disaster after an undersea
earthquake caused a tsunami and massive flooding that has reportedly
killed over 100 people in the South Pacific Samoan Islands and the
islands of Tonga. Please help us help them in their efforts to survive
this disaster.

The Relief Fund for Sexual Assault Victims
<http://www.relieffundforsexualassaultvictims.org/> (Relief Fund) was
established in 2005 by U.S. national anti-sexual violence organizations
(National Alliance to End Sexual Violence, The National Organization of
Sisters of Color Ending Sexual Assault, National Sexual Assault
Coalition Resource Sharing Project, National Sexual Violence Resource
Center, and Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network) in order to address
the needs of sexual assault survivors during and after disasters. 

The Relief Fund is designed to:

1. Support the needs of sexual assault survivors 
2. Support the needs of sexual assault advocacy program staff 
3. Assist with expanded direct service capacity needs 
4. Assist with prevention initiatives to protect evacuees from
sexual violence 
5. Support relocation/rebuilding efforts for flood-damaged sexual
assault advocacy programs 

Here is how you can help:

Donate now! 

Join the effort to bring support and services to victims of sexual
assault through a donation to the Relief Fund for Sexual Assault Victims
<http://www.relieffundforsexualassaultvictims.org/> . There are three
ways to donate (credit card, pay pal or check).

Donate online
<http://www.relieffundforsexualassaultvictims.org/donate.html> or mail
to:
Relief Fund for Sexual Assault Victims 
c/o National Sexual Violence Resource Center
123 N. Enola Drive
Enola, PA 17025

100% of donations will go to victims/programs in affected areas.
Administrative costs are being donated by the National Sexual Violence
Resource Center. Funds will be allocated to state/territory or tribal
sexual assault coalitions in the affected areas for dispersing the
resources as needed within their respective regions. For questions
about the application process, please contact the National Sexual
Violence Resource Center (NSVRC) at resources@nsvrc.org. 

Spread the Word!

Please help us in building the fund by circulating this announcement.
Additionally, a Relief Fund Flyer describing the fund is available
online in pdf format
<http://www.nsvrc.org/sites/default/files/file/Projects_Disasters_Relief
-Fund-Flyer-AS.pdf> to assist with getting the word out.

Help to prevent sexual violence in disasters!

Inform your community about the risk of sexual violence in times of
disaster. The National Sexual Violence Resource Center in partnership
with the Louisiana Foundation Against Sexual Assault has developed a
book entitled “Sexual Violence in Disasters: A planning guide for
prevention and response” available in English
<http://www.nsvrc.org/publications/nsvrc-publications/sexual-violence-di
sasters-planning-guide-prevention-and-response> and Spanish
<http://www.nsvrc.org/publications/nsvrc-publications/la-violencia-sexua
l-durante-desastres-gu%C3%AD-de-planificaci%C3%B3n-para-la-p> . Submit
requests for print copies to resources@nsvrc.org. Additionally, the
NSVRC has created an online collection of disaster preparedness
resources <http://www.nsvrc.org/projects/disasters> to assist
communities in their educational and planning efforts.

National Sexual Violence Resource Center

123 North Enola Drive, Enola, PA 17025

877.739.3895 Toll Free

resources@nsvrc.org

Many of you may not be aware that for the better part of the last eighteen years violence prevention has been a passion of mine, but mostly a labor of love; MSR, being a modest non-profit, has never had the resources to pay me, or any of the other folks who’ve devoted time to the cause, what our time was really worth; we subsist on the occasional grant and the rare, but quite welcome, stipend for workshop facilitation (though the majority of workshops that we provide in the community we do for free in circumstances where the requesting organization are themselves so strapped for cash).

As such, MSR, and violence prevention has often had to take a back-seat to whatever was foremost on my agenda in terms of a rent-paying job; even for the past two years that I have been unemployed, thanks to the havoc wreaked upon the economy, the search for employment was so encompassing that energy left over for changing the world was a rare commodity. So with this new position at WCASA, I will have a chance not only to pick myself up by my own bootstraps, but also the rare opportunity to earn a living doing something that I believe in and to which I am committed.

This does not mean an end to my association with MSR, nor my commitment to continuing this blog space and podcasting and such. I intend to continue to posting on behalf of MSR; and of course I will continue to work in the community doing prevention work, with a focus on increasing awareness of and participation of men. But, I will be wearing two hats – one as a member of the state coalition, and one as a member of one of the oldest men’s anti-violence organizations in the country.

And both worn quite proudly.

Such was the case of one DaPhamily – a screen name; I don’t know his real name, nor his real age (though a colleague estimated him to be about twelve, and that seems accurate enough to me). But he posted a video on YouTube a couple of weeks ago on the occasion of nude photos of Vanessa Hudgens being posted online.

You’d think it was Christmas morning the level of enthusiasm that he exudes. Not to mention the display of blatant sexism and sexuality that would be disturbing under normal circumstances and is even more so on the face what appears to be an innocent, little boy.

His video can be seen here:

YouTube – New Vanessa Hudgens Topless photos!!! over like 10!!! August 2009

There are almost two thousand comments, and many of them are disturbing bordering on reprehensible.

However, YouTube also allows the posting of video responses. Since I didn’t have the luxury of the means of production as a teen, I’m trying to make up for lost time by making use of them in adulthood, and I posted a video reply in which I try to impart some thoughts to this young man that he might not have heard from an adult before.

My response can be seen here:

Stephen Montagna-Men Stopping Rape – DaPhamily Response

the barely conscious drunk girlfriend in question is Caroline, the evil prom queen. An epic party at Jake’s place leaves her leveled. (”I have Caroline passed out in the bed upstairs,” Jakes muses at one point, trying to put his finger on what’s missing in his relationship with her, and why he feels drawn to Sam. “I could violate her 10 different ways if I wanted to.”

Ms. Benfer does a good job of upholding respect for Mr. Hughes’ skills in terms of his acumen for dissecting class, while acknowledging shortcomings on how he dealt with gender and sexism. This is the often over-looked aspect of dissecting the popular culture, we often have to take people who we revere in some ways to task for their less-than-perfect behaviors. It’s a well written, and thought-provoking piece.

It makes me want to rent the Hughes canon and view those films again, twenty years later, with an adult awareness, and with the eyes and ears of someone who has worked in the movement for nearly that long.

An article on EurekAlert – the news site for the American Association for the Advancement of Science – describes the research:

Middle-aged men who strongly idealize masculinity are almost 50 percent less likely than other men to seek preventative healthcare services, according to a study—the first population-based analysis of men’s masculinity beliefs and preventative healthcare compliance—to be presented at the 104th annual meeting of the American Sociological Association.

The research actually has a Wisconsin connection:

Using a sample of 1,000 middle-aged men drawn from responses to the 2004 wave of the Wisconsin Longitudinal Study, the researchers reviewed the respondents’ masculinity beliefs, socioeconomic status (as measured by education and occupational status) and receipt of three commonly recommended annual healthcare procedures for middle-aged men: a complete exam/physical, flu shot and a prostate examination. The Wisconsin Longitudinal Study is a large-scale study of the education, careers, health and aging of adolescent males and females who graduated from Wisconsin high schools in 1957. The study was administered again in 1964, 1975, 1992 and 2004.

As we’ve contended all along, examining issues of violence and gender is important for men not just because A) we’re statistically perpetrating the vast majority of these crimes, B) we know that women around us are being negatively impacted by misogynist attitudes and the violence associated with it, and C) we ourselves are negatively impacted by perpetuating gender stereotypes which de-value women and simultaneously cause us to shun our own humanness – including the vulnerability of our bodies. Still, I’m thankful for the heavy-duty numbers-crunching scientific types who put many hours in to come up with the evidence that supports this; I’m also thankful to Mr. Laxman Belbase of Men Engage-Asia who posted the link to this article in the Men Against Violence listserv.

Article: http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2009-08/asa-mmb080409.php

Soon after the Virginia Tech slayings, I interviewed Dr. James Gilligan, who spent many years studying violence as a prison psychiatrist in Massachusetts and as a professor at Harvard and N.Y.U. “What I’ve concluded from decades of working with murderers and rapists and every kind of violent criminal,” he said, “is that an underlying factor that is virtually always present to one degree or another is a feeling that one has to prove one’s manhood, and that the way to do that, to gain the respect that has been lost, is to commit a violent act.”

I have no doubts that Mr. Sondini had mental health issues; but let’s not paint this as an isolated incident, but a sign of larger, unexamined patterns of masculine behavior that desperately need to be addressed.

Fine work, worth a read…

Op-Ed Columnist – Women at Risk – NYTimes.com.

Naomi Wolf: Busted, Pentagon: Why The Photos Probably Do Show Detainees Sodomized and Raped.

Professor Syrett does a very good job of putting fraternity behavior in historical and cultural context. This piece is a must-read for anyone doing prevention work.

My thanks to Amy Benfer of the Broadsheet at Salon.com for bringing this article to my attention (and for offering a very good overview of the salient points).

It’s also very instructive that the victim in this case did not come forward to report. Turns out there are reasons why someone who has been assaulted might not necessarily want to shout it from the highest hill. Perhaps male on male assault can teach us something about male on female perpetration…

4 teens charged as adults in locker room sexual assault case – CNN.com.